I have often wondered about this too. I have been working on just telling the truth and not trying to adjust the details. Part of it is me learning to be comfortable with the uncomfortable part of telling the truth with those details and then learning to let it go, make peace with it and even forgive myself for the choices that were made.
The truth can be so uncomfortable! And it is hard to confront your past choices on the page, although it helps to remember that if I hadn't done that, maybe I wouldn't be writing about it right now.
I have my theme for my memoir (second one) and I have allowed myself to write everything and plan to choose what stays once I have a first draft. This has helped keep me not to make decisions about what may be pertinent too soon. Writing this memoir has been challenging as I explore some of my past that is recorded in my journals - some of which I had forgotten
I have often wondered about this too. I have been working on just telling the truth and not trying to adjust the details. Part of it is me learning to be comfortable with the uncomfortable part of telling the truth with those details and then learning to let it go, make peace with it and even forgive myself for the choices that were made.
The truth can be so uncomfortable! And it is hard to confront your past choices on the page, although it helps to remember that if I hadn't done that, maybe I wouldn't be writing about it right now.
I have my theme for my memoir (second one) and I have allowed myself to write everything and plan to choose what stays once I have a first draft. This has helped keep me not to make decisions about what may be pertinent too soon. Writing this memoir has been challenging as I explore some of my past that is recorded in my journals - some of which I had forgotten